The perpetrator becomes, by magic, the Man Who Wasn’t There, and we pretend that sexual harassment/violence is some natural phenomenon, like pollen or bad weather, that women just happen to walk into. We pretend that it doesn’t stem from human actions or choices, except the actions or choices of the victim.
Imagine that a man heaves a bucket of cold water all over a woman. Soaked, shocked, the woman appeals to passers-by for help, pointing to the man, who stands there laughing and enjoying her consternation. “Who the hell does he think he is?” asks the woman, but the passers-by completely ignore the man with the bucket. Instead they ask the woman why she wasn’t carrying an umbrella, since she ought to have known it might rain.
There I made an infographic do you understand now
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Some Idiot/How Sports Bras Work (by JennaMarbles)
Jenna Marbles did an excellent response to an article about Olympic boobs.
[NSFW for language and sheer awesome]
Obviously, there’s nothing wrong if you DO happen to be broad-shouldered & flat-chested, but this lady is MADE of awesome! And word-to-your-mother-fuck-yes about sports bras! Men just need to shut the hell up all day every day about everything/anything having to do with women’s fashion/appearance/bodies. Get it through your heads, men - YOUR. OPINION. IS. NOT. ESSENTIAL. TO. OUR. EXISTENCE. Nor should it be. Women shouldn’t have to dress/work out/alter themselves for the male gaze. Believe it or not, we do make decisions about our lives that have absolutely nothing to do with TURNING YOU ON. You may make all of YOUR life choices with your DICK in mind, and hey that’s just fine for you. But don’t expect US to make all OUR decisions with YOUR dick in mind, too.