lacigreen:

Um.  

Let’s set this shit straight, shall we?

Oxytocin is a chemical released in the brain that helps with emotional bonding and trust.  It’s a hormone that makes people feel all lovey dovey.  This hormone is released by males and females when you have an orgasm, touching, giving birth, breastfeeding, and other pleasurable activities (such as petting your dog, cuddling, hugging, masturbating, etc).  

Oxytocin doesn’t connect you to someone forever.  Hormones are an effect that linger for a little while (anything from a few hours to a few days) and then goes away until the next surge.  A woman will not feel forever attached and “mentally messed up” for the rest of her life if she has sex with someone who she later splits with.  What a pile of bullshit.

This post reinforces 2 myths:

MYTH: That women must “save” herself for “the one”
REALITY: If a woman wants to have sex with only 1 person in her lifetime, that’s her decision…and anybody who thinks it’s OK to scare her into that decision can seriously go fuck themselves.

MYTH: Men can’t feel emotionally connected to anyone until they have kids.
FACT: Men can connect emotionally just like women can and they experience oxytocin release as well.  This myth also implies that if a woman wants to connect to her male partner, they must have kids to do so.

Further, oxytocin is not ”nature’s way” of telling us to only have sex with one person.  In our primitive history, humans were rarely monogamous.  In recent centuries, society has taken to forcing people (and apparently, scaring them) into only having sex with 1 person, but in reality, this almost never happens.  The vast majority of people have sex with more than 1 person in their lifetime.

And guess what?  None of us are “mentally messed up” because of it. 

As usual, Laci Green schools the idiocy out of an absolutely ridiculous myth. God bless that woman and her webcam.

(TW: rape discussed)
Even ignoring the fact that everything about this man vs. woman oxytocin bond crap is completely ridic., I’m still sick and tired of people who point to physiological occurrences (like hormones and sexual urges, etc.) and think that that excuses them from using their fucking brains. To hear these people tell it, we’re nothing more than mindless animals at the complete and utter mercy of whatever cocktail of chemicals happens to be flooding our system at any given moment. SO we’re left in a world where rapists are not responsible for their own actions because they’re the “victims” of their own bodily lust and whatever pheromones a member of the opposite sex* dares to excrete at them. And murderers are “victims” of heightened testosterone levels and screwy brain chemistry. And people who “hit it and quit it” without thought or consideration for how their actions affect the people they’re with are merely victims of oxytocin (or lack thereof). Stop acting like we’re all just mindless beasts in the jungle reacting to pheromones and whichever direction our blood happens to be flowing and start acting like you’re a person with higher brain function and the ability to control your damn self when a sudden surge of hormones hits you.

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