I FOUND A TUTORIAL ON HOW TO MAKE DILDO POPSICLES IM LEGITIMATELy DYING OF LAUGHTER RN
… i’m doing this.
Extended Standing Leg Stretch Utthita Hasta Padangusthasana
One of the biggest myths about flexibilty I keep hearing is that one has to be skinny to be flexible…well…that’s NOT true.
I wish there were more larger folk pictures doing workouts.
YES GOOD
the best reaction is being in bed with someone and they freak out because you can do stretchy sex positions while being big
Serena Williams is a dainty, precious princess. If you don’t agree, never speak to me again.
She’s a princess warrior
Alexander McQueen - “SAVAGE BEAUTY” {Exhibition} #2
Shine Bright Like A Diamond
One thing I’ve noticed that’s an interesting note of cultural differences within America is the gendering of hairstyles. I’ve included variations above of the two-braids hairstyle that, where I come from, is a common male hairstyle.
I’ve included two pictures of Snoop Dogg, who is probably for most people the most famous wearer of this hairstyle in a national/international context. Snoop of course is a bit of a dandy, with the signature long hair that’s obviously pampered and well-cared for. An important note: Snoop is from the LA area, specifically Long Beach, which is also my birthplace and hometown.
I’ve also included a photo of Willie Nelson, who’s rather famous for appropriating the two-braids hairstyle, which is generally considered to be the domain specifically of men of color. The braids are most popular among men of indigenous, mestizo, or Mexican descent, including young Black men.
For young Black men who do not perm their hair, the cornrow-braids hairstyle is a bit more common; six cornrowed braids that are then braided again at the base of the neck into two braids instead of hanging free.
Additionally, being a male and having your hair prepared in this style gives another message: that there is a woman who cares for you enough to take care of your hair like this, whether a mother, grandmother, aunt, wife, sister, or girlfriend. It can have the connotation of being spoiled, como “trenzcito” which means “little braid(ed boy)”; it adds a connotation of “baby boy” or “youngest son”.
Two instances of culture clash: when I first moved up north, I commonly fixed my hair in two long braids, which were almost waist length. In Cali, this is a “butch” hairstyle, or at least kinda gender-neutral. I got so many (sexist AND racist) comments about it, especially at work, that I ended up cutting my hair off an inch or two from my scalp.
Another is my ex-husband had very long hair, which I used to carefully and lovingly braid for him as part of my marianisma duties: a single long braid, the double-braid-in-one style pictured above, two sleek braids parted in the middle, and on special occasions, box braids. In contrast, my (white) partner now really doesn’t like me to do anything to his hair at all; he considers it to be kinda feminizing and/or something only to be done in private. I always end up feeling vaguely offended and rejected, but I just have to remind myself that it’s honestly a cultural difference, and that his lack of braids doesn’t reflect poorly on my care for him.
It’s really kind of funny if you think about it. I’m always imagining people see my unbraided partner at work and their pity upon him for being so unloved, before I remember this is the north and no one thinks that here. Still, it doesn’t stop me from wanting to yell, “make sure they know that I LOVE you!” every day when he leaves for work.
This is great commentary but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t focused on dude in the center most of the time.
Mine is a multipurpose and flexible blog
come for the commentary
stay for the beauty
lol this makes me think of Mario’s song “Braid my hair”
OMG YES THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT
I didn’t even know the song before (lol I still listen to the music I listened to in high school because I’m an old people) but I looked at the music video and listened to the song, and it’s basically about everything i just wrote about.
“sit me down like you love me.”
You’ve never experienced privilege over fat women? Okay. Sure. Let’s talk about that.
- How many stores can you name that have clothes that fit you? Not that you like, necessarily. Not that you can afford. That have clothes that will fit you.
- How many times have you been unable to fit in a public space? That includes buses, planes, trains, subways, restrooms, desks, chairs, etc.
- How many fat women can you name who are on tv right now whose storylines don’t center around the fact that they are fat?
- Go to a store. Look at the magazine rack. How many fat women are on the cover? How many fat women are in the magazine?
- Watch tv. How many fat women are on commercials, have spoken lines, and those commercials aren’t about their weight, their health, and don’t make fun of them?
- Tell me why you think “you’ve gained weight” is usually seen as offensive, whereas “you’ve lost weight” is seen as a compliment.
- Tell me why fat people are the majority, but thin people are supposed to be models for perfection.
- Tell me why those aren’t privileges.
- Tell me why you think you are exempt from all of those things.
Your privilege is BOUNTIFUL. Your privilege takes up more space than my fat ass ever could.
And this doesn’t even get into medical, employment, adoption, dating, and immigration discrimination against fat people, or touch upon how fatness tends to exacerbate discrimination faced as a member of another marginalized group.
But, obvious troll is obvious (and a troll I recognize from the TITP inbox, before they were put on ignore).
-ATL
But none of that is her fault.
Privilege is by definition unearned advantages over group X by virtue of belonging to group Y. You don’t need to have intentionally become a part of group X to be privileged over group Y. Rich kids are born into their money, and thus aren’t ‘to blame’ for their class privilege, but they still have privilege. Also, they’re to blame for being willfully ignorant about being privileged, or for perpetuating a system that oppresses poor people.
In that same sense a thin person isn’t to blame for being privileged, but they are to blame for being willfully ignorant about being privilege, or for perpetuating a system that oppresses fat people either actively if they embrace their privilege and try to claim it as a ‘right,’ or if they refuse to acknowledge that they have privilege.
-ATL
Life is not about being “fat” or “skinny”. Its abput being healthy and happy with who you are
Let me put this in terms of what your blog is about.
If you made an important post and someone came along and said “Life isn’t about whether you have trichotillomania or not, it’s about being healthy and happy” how would you feel?
Would you not stop and say “but hey, talking about trichotillomania and giving support to other people who suffer (or have suffered) from it is really important, and to be healthy and happy, we have to talk about these issues?”
Because I’m betting you would.
But because you were more starkly affected by trichotillomania rather than body image issues, you’re waving off something that has an INCREDIBLE impact on millions and millions of people.
How is that fair? How is that nice? How is that okay in any way?
If it’s not important to you, then you should ignore it. But it is important to others, and you’ll have to deal with that.
An Indian & African wedding. Sharan & Jude, via Munaluchi Brides
I am unapologetically emotional about these photos.
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